Monday, January 16, 2012

My Husbands Brother Bill

I am having a very hard time writing this post...
this blog is a journal for me
so i want to have this in here
and i am truly not sure how to do it
so i will do my best
to get through this

my husband's only brother died suddenly and unexpectedly the week
 between Christmas and New Years
tomorrow Jan 17th
is his birthday...

we are still in shock
it doesn't seem real
it doesn't feel real

he meant so much to my husband
no brothers could have been closer
they worked together almost their whole life
then they played together the rest of his life
he lived only a mile away from our farmhouse
and we would see him almost everyday while we were there

he was the most dedicated
brother, father, husband, and grandfather
there ever was

gary flew to montana and spent a week with our
sister-n-law and their family
this was such a close family
the very closest of kinds
my heart goes out to his wife and kids

there was the birth of our grandson to help
us get through this last couple of weeks

~but it is so hard~

he was so giving to us
that i wanted to recap just a few of the things
he did around the farm for
gary and i

hanging the sign

he was the right person to do things that
had to be done perfect

the rock address

the birdhouses
and any other thing made out of wood

this one has lights

he had one at his place that i really admired
the next day he showed up with this

he did so much
he loved our farm as much as we did
he was such a big reason this place looks so
taken care of

in this picture they are both down there wrapping the trees
for fall to protect against the deer rutting

bill built the cedar trim at the bottom of porch
because i had mentioned that i was worried
the puppy would go under the house

he always put this birdhouse out for the summer and
screwed it down and
kept it painted

i said
"one of these days i would like to plant clematis on that post"
so he built this trellis

and planted some clematis for me
it was such a surprise and made me cry
when we drove up

this wagon is hard to see in this picture but
it is amazing

this year i found a picture of the home i grew up in..
that's me on
~mr ed~

i showed it to brother bill and asked if he thought he could
make my mom a birdhouse replica
so i could surprise her for christmas

a m a z i n g!!!!

i added some wreath stickers to give it a holiday feel
my mom and i cried
she was going to call brother bill
and tell him how much she loved it
but never got the chance

there are so many things he did to provide memories of him
everywhere we look we will see our
very much loved
~brother bill~

i'm not a good writer to even begin to write about this
so i am just going to leave with some pictures i have handy
of my husband's beloved big brother
that we are all missing

this is how i will remember him most
shooting the breeze
with his best friend

happy birthday brother bill
i hope you know how much you were loved 
will be missed


  1. I knew as soon as you said "husband's brother", I thought of the bird house builder. I really am not liking this stage of our lives. Maybe that is why we get grandbabies now too, to show the complete circle and give us a feel good when we need it. Thinking of you and praying for your family.

  2. Bill looked like a wonderful wonderful Man. How blessed to have him in your lives. You have such things of sentiment from him that you will treasure forever.

  3. I'm so very sorry for your family's loss. What a gift Bill was to every one of you. I remember previous farm posts when you wrote about him. It seems that a pivot point for the entire family has passed on, but especially for your husband. The brother-bond is enduring. Thinking of you with a prayer for your husband's sorrow.

  4. Kathy, thank you for posting all those great pictures and memories of Bill. Bill meant so much to everyone that knew him, he was truly a wonderful man.